Random thoughts from a new father

Well it has been a while indeed since I last logged in to write about being a dad - almost a month! Life has of course, been very busy, but we wouldn't exchange being parents for anything in the world. Xavier is, so far, a great boy. All he seems to do is sleep and eat - life is pretty good for him!

About once a week or so he gets an upset tummy/colicy(sp?)/wind and is unsettled. Those nights are tough as he keeps Kos up for most of the night and I wake up in the morning feeling as though I had too many tequilas the night before. We can't complain though he is a great 99% of the time.

One aspect which has changed is the amount of time Kos and I have for each other. Other fathers and mothers would know exactly what I am talking about. It is something which I have to constantly be aware of, as it is very easy to get home from work, focus on the baby, dinner and then we both head off to bed, too tired to connect to each other. On Thursday night we had a night sans X and it was great to share some sushi (Kos hadn't had any for about 10 months as she was off the raw fish during the pregnancy) and conversation much like what we had enjoyed before Xavier joined us. I think it is extremely important to still take time for each other. Yes Xavier is important to us, but if either of us are too tired for each other I can just imagine small issues and disagreements exploding into something bigger. Blokes: getting some alone time with your lady is an immensely important aspect and I can't recommend it enough.

Well just a short update to get me started. Not too many dilemmas to report on and thank goodness for that after the pregnancy Kos endured. Who can forget the 'perfect wingman', 'the bump gets bumped' and Kos' month in Hospital. Oh hey, that reminds me, regardless of how much I bitch and moan about the cost of private health insurance and its relative value I can proudly report that Kos' whole stay at the Mater cost us an excess of $250 - that includes only the bed, meals etc - but we recently got a letter from HCF stating that close to $16,000 in benefits for the stay had been paid on our behalf...perhaps it would cheaper to stay at the Hilton, but I don't think the Hilton is listed as a registered hospital with HCF. As Kos was in hospital for a month it was well worth her having her own room.